Dating Violence

Dating violence is when one person purposely causes physical or psychological harm to another person they are dating, including sexual assault, physical abuse, and psychological/emotional abuse. It is a serious crime that occurs in both casual and serious relationships, and in both heterosexual and same-sex relationships.

A victim might unknowingly be given alcohol or "date rape" drugs like Rohypnol. Date rape drugs are often slipped into a victim's drink while a person is in a social setting such as a club or party. These drugs, as well as alcohol, can make a person unable to resist assault, and have a type of amnesia so she is uncertain about what happened. The victim is then left to deal with the trauma of the sexual assault and the uncertainty surrounding the specifics of the crime. Unfortunately, most cases of dating violence are not reported to the police.

Violence against women or men by anyone is always wrong, whether the abuser is someone you date; a current or past spouse, boyfriend, or girlfriend; a family member; an acquaintance; or a stranger. You are not at fault. You did not cause the abuse to occur, and you are not responsible for the violent behavior of someone else.

If you or someone you know has been the victim of dating violence, seek help from other family members and friends or community organizations. Reach out for support or counseling. Talk with a health care provider, especially if you have been physically hurt. Learn how to minimize your risk of becoming a victim of dating violence before you find yourself in an uncomfortable or threatening situation.

If you're a victim of violence at the hands of someone you know or love or you are recovering from an assault by a stranger, you are not alone. To get immediate help and support call: Campus Safety 303.871.3000.

Dating Violence can be subtle and it is important to remember that it is not always physical. Watch for signs of controlling behavior and isolation—refusal to hang out with friends, extreme jealously, degrading or demeaning name calling, threats to break up if you don't do something for him/her. If you are worried you may be in an abusive relationship or that a friend of yours may be in danger, you can contact the Gender Violence Education and Support Services office located in Nelson Residence Hall. The office dedicated to working with students, staff, and faculty on issues of gender violence and provides free and confidential advice to survivors of gender violence as well as their friends and family. Gender violence encompasses sexual assault, stalking, dating and domestic violence. Please call 303.871.3853 or email Lisa Ingarfield, the Program Director for an appointment.

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